Pointers - Relationship Breakers

Many a times we have found out that we really like Finger-Pointing or throwing out "Pointers" to people. When I say "Pointers" I speak in the context of saying stuff like "You are a good for nothing....", "Your Family is like this and that....blah..." etc. This post is regarding stuff like that.

Pointers definitely weaken a relationship between a couple. There are no two ways about it. They weaken with every next one and eventually break it. The interesting part is that what we say, is not what we really mean. Pointers usually come out with an expression of anger which may not be related to the Pointer at all. They are just being used to torment, torture the other person. Unfortunately, words do affect the other person and hence weaken the relationship.

The important thing to realize is that nobody is perfect. Everybody has their flaws and weaknesses and in order to strengthen a bond, its more important to appreciate the good things rather than sending out negative comments highlighting the shortcomings. There is no benefit coming out of it.

Marriage is not about finding the perfect match, its about matching two imperfect people and making them adjust along with their imperfections.

And to achieve the above, one can definitely do without Pointers. They have no use in a relationship. There will be arguments, there will be differences but the adventure of marriage is to come over them. Think beyond the small differences and look at the good things. That is a rule for life as well but its really applicable to relationships.