I just couldnt think of a title for what I wanted to say today. Maybe by the time I end the post, it shall become something else but at the moment as I write it is "Dreading the Worst".
I dont know about other couples but I think one deep fear that both of us have is becoming someone else. I know I get a lot of "You will stay the same, right?" on one of those 'down' days. A guy has to be really careful when held at those questions. It is nothing less than standing with an apple on your head and your wife standing 30metres away with a bow & arrow.
Before I go on, I will share how I get away with that question every time by countering with the lamest of songs... "Hum say badal gaya woh....nigahein tou kya hua.....zinda hain kitnay loag....muhabbat kiye baghair...." which is translated as "It doesnt matter if he turned his eyes from me, there are many people alive without any love in their lives..."
uff...It gets weird when you try to translate urdu to english. Anyway, back to the post.
The worst thing that we really dread about each other is that we will turn into one of our parents. I dread she would become her mom and she dreads I will become my dad. Of course it is very natural to become that and it's not like her mom or my dad are not likeable characters at all. By no means is this a parental ranting post, I never do that. They have done enough to bring us up and we have no reason to RANT.
SO what is it that we dread? Ok my dad has known to be the typical guy, with his logics and way about things and not moving from the point when decided in the head and difficult to socialize which even as I write, I know I will become if I havent already. SO Mayg's worst fear might already have come to life. Now since I am aware of the fact, I would make sure I work on it. I mean isnt that married life is all about?
I dread that she would become as free-flowy with spending money like her mom. I am amazed by the level of Allah Tawakkul [Leave it to God] attitude that her mom has. Its unbelievable in this day and age but I guess I am the one being unfair in this regard. I mean what is so bad in having the highest of faith in Allah. Damn, I am so bad. In fact I hope mayg can become her mom with regards to making "Dahi kee Roti" [Yogurt Bread] which I can have on a full stomach also.
I had wanted to write this post for so long and after writing it I have realized it wasnt a big deal after all. I know it is a HUGE deal for her though cos she really dreads some aspects of my dad like many other people in the family do. However no-one really knows the true personality of my dad. But anyway, I am proud to say that this particular blog post has changed my feared dreadfulness to being "no-issue-at-all".
Blogging can do wonderous things...dont know about mayg...though...
P.S. The blog title changed to "Was" Dreading the worst :P
7 comments:
hehe.. amusing as always..
but apart from the "entertainment" we get from reading the posts you guys share, I'd like to stress on how sharing thoughts like these, big deal or not, really helps! in a way I'm not sure if I an explain really.. It's like knowing you're not alone.. and that somewhere out there, someone is thinking the same as you are.. if you know what I mean.. in some way, it's comforting.. so thank you! =)
People can and do change. However, the real test of one's upbringing and the strength of character developed as a result, I believe, is whether one is able to retain some basic values throughout one's life.
It would, of course, be incredibly lucky if one can find a partner who would pass that test with flying colours.
Best wishes!
:)
One can grow together or grow apart ...... change is inevitable. The trick is in building a foundation on which one can build and grow together. I think this platform that you share will help you do that. God Bless and good wishes
boy that turned controversial now didnt it...we still get the readers...but people afraid to comment...
boy... that bad eh?
LOL dude you made it sound all scary.. what with attacking the dad, mil and wifey all in one go ;)
hmm.. looks like I'll have to add mayg's musings to this too..
ok guys - with all that said....can i pls have the recipe for the dahi kee roti? :P
i think there are always aspects you dread of the other persons families personality showing up in them- and you hope an dpray that your combination together will mellow the affect or perhaps negate it altogether. butyes i think the key is to be open in the expression, in the conversation so if the inevitable as you say(?) does happen, atleast you can talk yourself through it without too much damage on a relationship haina?
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